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With the popularity of sites like eHarmony,, OkCupid and countless others, the stigma of online dating has diminished considerably in the last decade. Online Dating at Every year, hundreds of thousands of people find love on pioneered the Internet dating industry, launching in 1995 and today serves millions of singles in 24 continues to redefine the way single men and single women meet, flirt, date and fall in love, proving time and again that you can make love happen through online dating ... is the number one destination for online dating with more dates, more relationships, & more marriages than any other dating or personals site. The Federal Trade Commission sued online dating service Match Group, Inc. (Match), the owner of, Tinder, OKCupid, PlentyOfFish, and other dating sites, alleging that the company used fake love interest advertisements to trick hundreds of thousands of consumers into purchasing paid subscriptions on You filled out your online dating profile. You took the perfect profile pictures. You searched for potential matches and even found some that caught your eye. But that was just the beginning, the question remains… What should you say to them? Composing an online dating message is one of the hardest parts of online dating. The largest & original millionaire dating site since 2001. Over 4.4 million+ HIGH QUALITY, rich and beautiful single women & men are looking for serious relationships. is the largest online dating, relationships, singles and personals service worldwide. On, meeting that special someone and finding a loving relationship with a single man or single woman is just a photo click away. We prove time and again that love and loving relationships are possible through online dating. Online dating scams are unfortunately still prevalent and impact thousands of people. In 2018, the FBI received 351,937 romance scam complaints.It’s no secret that there are deceptive people online who want to take advantage of vulnerable and lonely individuals — and they see singles on dating sites as easy targets. Profiles are a lot more in-depth than most online dating sites and if you answer a seemingly endless series of questions (much like a personality test), they will spit out a reasonable Match/Enemy ... discussion, profile tips, and love.

2010.01.04 03:21 cinsere discussion, profile tips, and love.

A community for the largest online dating community in the world. Give profile critiques, discuss the site, and chat about whatever floats your boat!

2016.09.30 17:26 lioncock666 Catfishing stories specifically having to do with size deception

This subreddit is for people to share stories about being fatfished (which usually involves online dating scenarios where the pictures via the profile do not match the person when meeting). Many men and women have been victims of the gross deception we are deeming fatfishing.

2010.06.19 00:02 eQpidDotCom Speed dating vs online dating……They both suck


2020.09.30 11:23 toncontact99 What is a privacy-friendly alternative to /r/privacy since Reddit is a surveillance capitalist company?

Shall we have conversation we have here on Mastodon under #rprivacy?

Why is Reddit a surveillance capitalist?

See the first main sections of their privacy policy is "what we collect (and how it used and shared [with third party]"

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2020.09.30 10:26 bull04 I (24M) may have pushed too fast into a relationship with my girlfriend (25F) I'm not entirely ready for.

Let me preface by saying I love my girlfriend very much. She's a very sweet and caring person, and she makes me very happy.
I met my girlfriend online back in May. At the time, I was about ready to give up on the online dating scene entirely, but we matched and clicked pretty quickly. We talked a bit online and then called each other on the phone and met up at a dog park with her dog for our first date. Things went great and we fell for each other instantly. We went on a couple more dates before solidifying the relationship to a serious status.
The first few months, I was pretty convinced that I was ready to get serious with someone, but recently I've been having a very hard time keeping myself believing that sentiment. However, before discounting that it's just me not wanting to get serious with someone, I'd like to lay out why I'm struggling with staying positive.
My girlfriend was previously in an abusive relationship, and it's really hurt her self confidence. I try as often as possible to re-assure her that she's amazing how she is, and that any changes she wants to make need to be hers, and no one else's wants or desires. I constantly assure her of my love and affection for her, and try to make her feel special during sex. However, there is some deep damage and a lot of her insecurities play a huge part in our daily lives in general. When we have a disagreement or a debate, she automatically defaults to how shitty of a person she is and how much of a failure and disappointment she is for having opinions and views. I tell her that that's just not the case, and that it's normal to have disagreements and that both of us have a right to feel how we feel, but I feel stuck in a corner when it comes to having discussions. If I have any opposing view, it gets to the point of her breaking down completely and thinking I don't love her or want to be around her anymore. At first, it was easy to keep talking to her and reassure her that I'm here for her through thick and thin, but after a while it gets hard. I'm carrying a lot of her emotional weight on top of my own and it gets hard to keep us both afloat. However, I love her and I care about her happiness, so I try to keep her confidence up.
We are also different personality-wise. I'm an extremely introverted person, and can go weeks at a time with no contact with anyone else and be completely fine, but she's very extroverted and needs connection and socialization as often as possible, or she gets very upset. It's understandable, considering she's an extrovert, but I have had no success easing her into meeting new people and finding friends to hang out with or things to do outside of our relationship, so we can keep a healthy balanced life. If I'm not around for longer than an hour or so, I get texts saying "I miss you" and "I love you so much babe" every couple hours. I feel like if I'm not there, she has nothing else, which makes me feel bad. I want to be there for her, but I have a job, other responsibilities, and some schedule conflicts that prevent me from being there all the time, which weighs on her. We built her a PC recently so we could play games together and I could introduce her to a lot of digital hobbies, which I'm most experienced at, but she hasn't touched the PC in weeks. She met one girl at a bar we were hanging out at and has hung out with her once or twice, but feels like she's always initiating conversation, so she's convinced her new friend wants nothing to do with her. She wants to hang out with my roommates girlfriend a lot too, but she's introverted and doesn't like being around the house often.
Wrapping that sort of stuff up, I feel trapped right now. I avoid conflict for the most part, which gives us the impression of being super long term and very serious, since we're so comfortable around each other. However, I don't want to set that image off if I feel like I'm going to be completely drowned in a life that consists of taking on the full mental weight of 2 people, rather than just myself.
I guess what I'm needing advice for is how to help my girlfriend find a life outside of our relationship that she feels just as fulfilled in. I want her to be just as happy when I'm not around as when I am, so she can focus on keeping herself engaged and busy with her own things. Right now, I feel like I'm her entire life, which is weighing down on my mind, since I'm very much into my own things and like to have time to myself to engage in hobbies, friends and other life activities. Or, alternatively, find a way to leave the relationship in the healthiest and easiest way possible.
Thanks, Reddit!
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2020.09.30 07:43 AffectionateZoey Anyone else have a generally good experience with dating apps?

I always hear trans people talk extremely negatively of all online dating, but has anyone here actually had a really good experience?
I've been honestly really nervous about using them, but I decided to go on Bumble with some updated photos, and I got a shocking amount of matches almost right away, even with a note about how I'm trans right at the top of my profile- even have a date coming up. Maybe it's just some kind of survivorship bias, i.e. only people with a bad experience talk about it, or maybe it's because I happen to live in a liberal area, but my experience just doesn't match what I've heard?
So I wanted to open this discussion about positive stories of online dating! Maybe help people know it doesn't have to be all bad.
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2020.09.30 07:42 sparklepaper How do I (24F) meet someone without using dating apps?

I am a straight woman living in the PNW (United States) and I’m ready to find a boyfriend. I know myself, I know what I like, and I have learned a lot about how to have a healthy relationship.
I feel so disheartened by the circumstances surrounding this post, reddit. Dating apps have most definitely become an epidemic and in a lot of ways I think they do more harm than good. I respect that many people have found lasting relationships through online platforms and that they offer a sort of expediency in dating that we’ve never seen before.
But. What about how dating apps eliminate the need to endure the terrifying risk of rejection for people looking for a new partner? And people cherry pick which of their attributes to include in their profiles, and which of their angles to photograph for pictures. And when you meet someone from an app, there’s already this underlying assumption that it’s for a potential romantic future, which feels so miserably forced and transactional. The pressure sucks the spontaneity from the date. You can’t relax and just “be” with the person and enjoy the experience because there’s already a looming goal, and there has been one since you created the profile. And we’re scrolling through hundreds of living, breathing people, discounting most of them because of appearance or because they don’t check enough boxes on our crazy lists of criteria for a mate, when in reality, we have zero idea which of these people we’d actually feel chemistry with. Or which ones would stop our hearts with eye contact or which ones would make us laugh harder than we have in months. There’s something so incredibly intoxicating by intelligent eye contact and wit and timing, and this is lost through the medium of the app. So they’re a pathetic misrepresentation of all that a human person actually is when they’re standing there in real life in front of you. They make people dishonest and contrived and often times generic.
And an even more immediate consequence that comes with the widespread use of dating apps and digital culture in general? Having an artificial simulation of a social life crammed into your back pocket all the time makes it so people have lost the urgent drive to pursue meaningful interactions with strangers in real time like we always used to have to do. Now that we can always fall back on our phones to bring us new people, it’s extremely rare to actually meet a friend or partner unexpectedly in a public setting.
In addition, dating apps provide a terrifying eternity of options. Way way way WAY too many options, especially if you live in a city. This is so unnatural!!!! If you consider how people used to meet and mate with one another, it would’ve been someone from the circle of people you actually interact with (no more than 150 people TOTAL, counting all ages and genders, for most) that you’d fall for. Or it would be someone who’s so striking and appealing to you that something about their likeness made you open up to them as complete strangers who happened to lock eyes in public. Or something like that. So dating apps completely overlook the once inescapable factors of proximity and chance. And they give us far too many options, which lessens the importance of each individual as we encounter them through our lives. How important can one be when there are easily 100,000 more waiting to be swiped through? But the endless options really only make us less satisfied with what we have, not more so.
So, as a thoughtful, engaging, and sincere young woman who longs for true companionship, romance alongside friendship in someone special, and who wants to find someone who thinks similarly about the sham of online dating, how? How will I find this person, who may or may not exist? If everyone is using apps, who is going to talk to me in person? Not all women feel this way, but I want to be pursued by a confident man. Who is going to go through the trouble of noticing and approaching me when we’re all pacified by our phones, and when it’s far more convenient and a lower risk to message online matches? Where will he be? And I’m so curious, does anyone agree with me on my thinking around this issue?
To those of you out there who still go out of your way to ask out other people in confident and respectful terms face to face, kudos to you, you’re a rare bird.
Also, I don’t mean to insinuate that all men should be pursuing all women. I just mean to say that I personally prefer to be pursued by someone who is outgoing and confident. It’s just my nature.
Tl;dr how do I find a partner when everyone is hiding behind their dating apps and I don’t want to use apps because I think they’re dishonest and cowardly and a far cry from representing the real magic and chemistry of human interaction?
Thanks for reading.
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2020.09.30 07:18 concernedcitizen672 Boyfriend obsessed with his past hookups

I’ve been dating my (31M) boyfriend for more than a year now; he took a while to come around, but is incredibly sweet and our relationship is otherwise nice.
But I’ve noticed something weird about him that just continues.
Quick background: he has a loooong history. 60+ past partners. (I discovered a list he has written down.) that’s fine. I don’t mind that.
But what’s weird about it.... is that he obsessively searches them on social media. In fact, they’re the only things he searches for. Searching some girl he hooked up with once or twice years ago will often be the first thing he does when he wakes up in the morning, and the last thing he does before he falls asleep.
His search histories online never typically even involve friends or anything else. Upon discovering this, I also noticed roughly 1/4 of the people he follows on social media are women he matched with on some dating profile.
One girl he likes to search in particular is someone he used to hook up with not too long before we got together. In fact, the first and ONLY time I met his father, he brought all three of us to her place of work (some bar). He didn’t know I knew about their past, but it was really awkward and apparent between she and I.
He kept referring to her as “my friend,” but the energy was awkward and weird and off.
I have to note: he doesn’t ever reach out to these people or attempt contact... but he does keep tabs on them.
Should I be concerned about this? Is this a red flag?
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2020.09.30 07:01 science_is-cool Online dating is weird and I just can’t get into it

I feel so awkward doing online dating. I love talking to people in person but I feel so weird talking to a random person online like that. Like, I’m on Tinder but I never message the guys I match with bc it’s like “hey I think you’re hot and you seem like an interesting person” like ??? I don’t know maybe it’s just me. I really want a relationship and especially during corona it’s hard to meet new people in real life, so I tried online dating but can’t get into it. :/
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2020.09.30 06:33 laurabt1 The guy I fell for called me beautiful (gorgeous actually) and I'm so surprised I'm in denial

We've been talking for months. He used to be an online friend I had a crush on and decided to act on it, in the middle of a pandemic and we can't see each other even though he lives near.
After some ups and downs, I realized I'm in love. He's everything I expected and better. There's nothing about him I'm not melted for. That includes his looks. I used to think he was kissable. Now I think he's incredibly handsome.
He's not on the same step as I am, and he told me why. He's nice and empathetic, just how I search for. He says he doesn't see how we could have a strong bond without really knowing each other. That would be in person.
I can't really see what lacks. Yes, there's something lacking. But nothing that stops me from having feelings for him. I know him better than I knew my ex, who I dated on an impulse.
Still, I respect that. I told him I understand and respect it. We're still talking a lot and on a flirty mood.
I compliment him a lot because that's how I am. Expressive. He's a little more awkward. We're a good match for each other with some differences, because that's life.
Anyway, here's what happened:
He uploaded a video playing the guitar. He was shirtless. Really warm weather where we live, that's true.
He looked so handsome to me, I couldn't resist. I thought for a while before texting him a cute and honest compliment.
As a pit of insecurity, I was scared he would react badly. He didn't. He giggled and replied: "thanks, gorgeous."
I smiled so broadly.
Part of me says he's just being polite. Sometimes when people say you look good, you reply thanking and saying they look good as well. At least in my country.
He knows I'm in love with him and have been for three months. Not to include the talks before that.
Now he's been offline for hours, as he does, and I'm as hopeful and infatuated as ever.
The first physical compliment. He already said I'm smart with literature and mythology, things like that.
I only knew he was probably attracted to me because we flirted. You feel kind of meek when you're idealizing somebody that much. But my self-esteem is fine.
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2020.09.30 04:53 sibevo My crush unblocked me, ‘a stalker’

TL;DR at the bottom
Hi all,
I found this incredibly cute guy on this dating app around June. Let’s call him X. It was rare for me; love at first sight had never happened to me but X seemed to have it all. Unfortunately I never got matched with him.
That was just until I saw him again months later on a more serious dating app (Tinder) where I superliked him and, to my biggest surprise, got matched with him. X accepted me and I was so happy that I messaged him first. Unfortunately: no reply.
The following I did was a bit extreme. X left the name of his town on his profile so I looked up the most liked picture of his town on Instagram. On that list I managed to find X’s Instagram profile, which included his first and last name. I searched him up on Google and found out a lot about him: where he lived, worked and what school(s) he attended. He’s not only super good looking, but also super smart.
Then, I decided to add X on Snapchat in order to grab his attention. He asked me who I was and I explained extensively that we matched on Tinder and that I found him via Instagram. I told him I thought he was a friendly looking guy and that I liked to get to know him better.
It was hard for me to keep up the conversation. X acted kind of awkwardly and told me that he was not ‘really looking for any date’. He kept updating his Tinder profile however(!), which was very strange. I just accepted that and asked him whether we could just not get to know each other better to see how things would go. He agreed to that. We sent each other a Snap everyday.
I asked X to grab a cup of coffee with me multiple times but he always kind of rejected my offer saying that he was either “not sure”, “not ready”, and that “it was already kind of doomed to fail because of our strange online encounter”. He made me feel very confused about it, because it was never a real “no”. Moreover he kept sending me pictures and he also kept updating his Tinder profile.
The truth: It became clear to me that X was dating someone else already. I knew that because I was checking his Instagram regularly. X and another person were constantly tagging each other. I never understood until today why he was dating that person while being active on Tinder at the same time. It gave me a reason to confront him about it.
I also checked X’s friends Instagram stories. When he found out, he told me he did not like my ‘stalkerish’ behavior and that, again, it was already “doomed to fail”. I apologized with big message saying that it was never my intention to come off as a stalker and that I thought X and I had a lot in common (we actually do) and that it is normal for people to check others’ profiles when they like someone.
No response. He kept sending me daily pictures, though, as if nothing happened, which confused me.
Finally, my best friend and I visited a city (X lives here as well) and I told X that it was a last opportunity to meet. To my greatest surprise he said he would think about it. Next day, I asked what he thought and he admitted that he “just does not want to reject me.” We then had a long chat.
I wished X the best and apologized for the awkwardness between us as we never met.
I got deleted and blocked on both Snapchat and Instagram. It felt like a little heartbreak.
I’ve started checking X’s Instagram with a secret account immediately after the rejection. What I noticed in the beginning only was that his behavior was kind of fluctuating as he continuously changed his profile into either private or public. My account remained blocked though.
Until yesterday. After 3 months of No Contact, my crush has UNBLOCKED me on Instagram. Why? Why would X do this? He wanted me to remain out of his life. I am completely clueless. I know it does not mean a lot, but he has intentionally removed me from his block list. It means that he must have thought of me and my interest in him. Right?
I might have come off as a stalker, but I really do not have bad intentions. I never talked to my crush again. I really want to, though. What should I do?
Should I add my crush again? Should I send him a direct message? Or should I give it more time and let him come to me?
TL;DR My internet crush and I matched on Tinder but he ignored me. Therefore I did some research and found out about my crush’s other social media and real name. I added him on Snapchat and he would engage in conversation but not fully. He also did not want to meet. It became clear to me very soon that he was already dating someone else even though he was constantly using/updating his Tinder profile. After having some chats I wished my crush the best and I got blocked everywhere afterwards. After checking out on my crush daily by looking him up I noticed that yesterday I got unblocked again after 3 months of no contact. Why would my crush do this if he wanted me to stay out of his life? My crush certainly unblocked me on purpose. What should I do now? I really want to date him.
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2020.09.30 04:09 GrandMasterB19 How Did You Meet Your Doms, Subs, or Kink Partners?

Hey guys, I'm 28 M straight, recently relocated to a smaller city, and I'm a newer dominant having trouble meeting partners interested in kink.
What I'm looking for: I'm interested in meeting like-minded women around my age for play partners provided there's chemistry between us. If there's no chemistry, I'm more than comfortable with friendship. Right now I'm not particularly interested in a committed relationship, what I'm looking for is a friends with benefits arrangement. I'm really into rough sex, dominance & submission, and primal play, so fairly common kinks.
What I've tried: I started an Okcupid profile and answered as many kink questions as I could, no matches. I've started profiles on apps like KinkD and Kinkoo, but those are pretty empty and full of bots or require payment to message people. I've even tried messaging women near me on Fetlife. I do NOT ask them for sex. I simply mention that I'm new to the area and interested in meeting new people for friendship or play partners, and then comment on something in their profile, like their hobbies/interest. Very few replies. There currently are no public events in my area.
Most of the women I have discussed kink with online have told me that I would make a good Dom. Various women have told me that I'm well-spoken, intuitive, empathetic, confident, cute, and overly safety focused. Those are all legitimate compliments different women have given me. I was also told that by a woman that there are many women looking for safe/communicative guys to explore kink with, so I shouldn't have trouble finding plenty of play partners at my age. However, I also know women on dating apps are bombared with messages from horny disrespectful guys, so I feel like no matter what I can't set myself apart and stand out if they don't engage in a conversation with me. I have listed in my profile: "Safety, consent, and communication are first and foremost. If you can't communicate boundaries, we are not fit to play together."
I'm also a health freak, 5'9, 150lbs, well-groomed, athletic build, and as a Dom I want my partners to be my size or smaller and physically capable. So kinky AND healthy is a requirement. I feel like I've already messaged every woman in my area that fits the bill and I'm just SOL at this point...
What else can I do to put myself out there and meet like-minded women?
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2020.09.30 03:32 naturewalkss 34 [M4F] Dallas/US Looking to develop a long term, supportive, close friendship with possible romance.

Local Dating: It can take quite a bit of time and effort to form a substantial romantic connection in the local dating scene nowadays. Having to wade through dating apps, social functions, etc. all during a pandemic. Add in dealing with general dating obstacles and dating fatigue.
What I'm looking for: I'm mainly looking to develop an online long-term, supportive, close friendship where we can also feel free to be romantic and flirt until we find someone to be serious with locally. I'm thinking we can be kind of like a wingwoman/wingman for each other but with the freedom to also flirt and be romantic with each other.
I'm looking for something in the sweet spot between a casual and serious romantic connection since there is a low chance we will be local. I'm open to developing something more if there is strong enough chemistry and desire to pursue something long distance together or if we happen to live locally.
Looking for someone to share weekly intimate evening voice calls with and possibly some intimate texting here and there throughout the week as well. This is after we talk a bit and see if we have some friendship/romantic chemistry. I imagine the intimate time to be a way for both of us to look forward to something, unwind from the day together, relax, and enjoy each other's company. This can be with talking, comfortable silence, doing an activity together or separately.
Me: 6'2, asian/white mix, good looking, physically active and fit, enjoy eating a healthy diet and employing good habits. My mbti is a mix of INTJ/INFJ. I'm a mix of an old soul combined with being young at heart. Basically a combo of mature and silly. I'm very introverted and tend to be reserved with someone new until I feel more comfortable with them (especially in person). I have a college education and enjoy learning for the actual knowledge and skill of something; not to feed the ego.
Some of my traits: analytical, organized, creative, perceptive, emotionally intuitive, supportive, nonjudgmental, thoughtful listener.
Interests: Nature/Animals, Artistic/Aesthetically pleasing views, Beautiful landscapes/locations, Puzzley/Strategic Games, Mystery, Documentaries, Social Sciences: Psychology, Philosophy, History, Art History, Film History, Anthropology, Sociology, etc. Chilling and relaxing. Low-key activities.
We can also trade pictures and/or video cam if wanted after messaging a bit. There's a lot more I can share about myself but I'll save the rest for when we begin talking :)
Some requirements I'm looking for:
Introverted. Physically slim, slender, average, or fit. Conventionally good looking. Someone who has similar characteristics/traits/interests/outlook.
Extra Bonus Points: If you live in the Dallas area. Are a INTJ/INTP. Have any similar interests.
F.A.Q.: Why am I posting on Reddit? Because I'm an introvert and it's rare to meet other introverts on dating apps and social places. Reddit attracts a lot more introverted people.
Disclaimer: I will only select the best written responses to reply to as I don't have the time and energy to develop a connection with everyone that replies. I'm not expecting that many replies as this is a pretty specific and selective kind of post but I want to give a heads up that the more effort you put into your message, the higher chance I will reply as I'm looking to invest time into a high quality connection and nothing less.
I put a lot of time, thought, and effort into the posts I create on Reddit to try to attract the right kind of connection. Looking for someone that enjoys matching that kind of energy.
Finish Line: If you were able to read through all that, fit the requirements, and think we'd have a connection, send me a message that includes your asl, some information about you, what you connected on, and why you think we'd connect! Feel free to ask any questions as well!
Look forward to hearing from you! :)
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2020.09.30 03:22 Sab3rFac3 I need an at least somewhat rugged laptop, with somewhat beefy innards.

So, effectively, I'm looking to get a PC, but just in a laptop case. I need the portability, but also want a decent system.
What will you be doing with this PC? Be as specific as possible, and include specific games or programs you will be using.
I'm currently going through college for engineering, so I'm making somewhat heavy use of 3d modeling, and design and drafting software. Specifically I generally use AutoCAD, but I do make use of other design, modeling, and simulation programs on occasion. Blender also sees modeling use, but more as a hobby.
This would also be used for any other miscellaneous college work, such as online classes, lab spreadsheets, quizzes, tests, online assignments, online textbooks, etc...
I also want something capable of functioning as a gaming Laptop. I have a relatively large collection that I play somewhat frequently to de-stress. many of these being higher end games, some of them being online games. Games Such as Doom Eternal, Death Stranding, Elite Dangerous, Destiny.
It needs to be fairly rugged, as this laptop would be getting transported basically everywhere with me, and I am, unintentionally, very hard on things. It might also see occasional use in a machine shop, for portable drafting, and machine control.
Specifically I am looking for a laptop, as with having to commute over an hour to campus every day, it is inconvenient to have both a Desktop PC, and a Laptop, when I would only ever be able to make use of the desktop less than Half the time. And with college, you cant really bring your tower with you all the time.
What is your maximum budget before rebates/shipping/taxes?
Preferably no more than around $2500, though I am willing to go a bit higher if necessary.
When do you plan on building/buying the PC? Note: beyond a week or two from today means any build you receive will be out of date when you want to buy.
This wouldn't be immediately built. I'm currently making do with a few year old MSI Laptop, but its case is falling apart. It would be built once I get through this semester, and get some money set aside to build it.
What, exactly, do you need included in the budget? (ToweOS/monitokeyboard/mouse/etc)
As a laptop, it would need keyboard, mousepad, monitor, etc... included. Windows OS. Not really looking for anything else except a charger.
Which country (and state/province) will you be purchasing the parts in? If you're in US, do you have access to a Microcenter location?
Illinois, USA. Yes I have access to a Microcenter
If reusing any parts (including monitor(s)/keyboard/mouse/etc), what parts will you be reusing? Brands and models are appreciated.
The MSI laptop I currently have, has a 1TB HDD and a 256 SSD that could be re-used, though I would prefer to expand to a 2+TB HDD and a 1TB SSD, but could use the smaller old drives to get me going. There a GTX 1050 in the MSI, which i would prefer to upgrade, but could use to get me going.
Will you be overclocking? If yes, are you interested in overclocking right away, or down the line? CPU and/or GPU?
I might be interested in overclocking down the line, but not an immediate concern.
Are there any specific features or items you want/need in the build? (ex: SSD, large amount of storage or a RAID setup, CUDA or OpenCL support, etc)
preferably 1TB of SSD and at least 2TB of HDD. Preferably a graphics card capable of handling VR. preferably at least 16GB Ram.
What type of network connectivity do you need? (Wired and/or WiFi) If WiFi is needed and you would like to find the fastest match for your wireless router, please list any specifics.
WiFi and Ethernet
Do you have any specific case preferences (Size like ITX/microATX/mid-towefull-tower, styles, colors, window or not, LED lighting, etc), or a particular color theme preference for the components?
A backlit keyboard would be nice.
Do you need a copy of Windows included in the budget? If you do need one included, do you have a preference?
Yes. Currently using windows 10.
Extra info or particulars:
I know this is likely a lot to fit in a laptop case, and would be getting fairly heavy and bulky. Size and weight don't bother me. I don't expect it to be sleek, and light as a feather. I don't expect a great battery life, which isn't an issue because there is almost always an outlet nearby on a college campus.
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2020.09.30 02:33 Fun_Seaworthiness_63 Hinge Advice

So, I matched with a particular girl this past Friday on Hinge. Right off the bat it seemed like she was somewhat interested. We then exchanged some pretty lengthy messages answering the questions that we had for each other. Now, fast forward to Sunday, she replied by saying "I really don't love the online chatting part of dating. I would rather meet someone in person and see if we hit it off. Therefore, would you be interested in grabbing some coffee sometime?"
I then proceeded to say "Yes, that would be great, but would you like to exchange numbers just to make it easier to message?" I did give her the flexibility of declining that option and provided my cell number. It's now been 2 days and still no response. :/ Do you think it may be that she did not want to exchange numbers and didn't like the fact that I asked or the fact that she may have met someone else who she's more interested in. Either way I would like to write to her once more and see if she replies. So, how much longer should I wait and what would be the most ideal thing to say in this case? Please help!
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2020.09.30 01:53 11mx16 Overwhelmingly anxious before this date.

It’s on Thursday, we matched on Tinder, the chit chats have been nice, we are both parents and he is cute but not too cute. This is my second time meeting someone in real life after interacting online. I’m really freaking nervous, I always get flighty before a first date, but am not the type to bail last minute or ghost, I do actually want to hang out. What helps you all feel more grounded?
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2020.09.30 00:46 Jallen4life First post and a list of accomplishments (Long post, pack a lunch...)

First post here but I lurk frequently. I prefer to shut the fuck up and keep doing the work, however reading Moonbeams comments about wanting to see more success inspired me to post and perhaps get feedback. (Yes this is also an alternate account from my main, since I'm sort of in the public eye, I prefer it that way for now till I can really master things without risk of any interference to my SM. If this is an issue let me know and I will just keep doing the work and not posting.)

This will possibly be a long post, and I have a ton I need to read and study still on this forum, (have read most of it and POSM twice.) so I preface all this by saying that I'm making hypothesis based on what I've read (so far) and what my critical thinking has shown me. Tear it apart if its not right and you have any other opinions. I want to master this, 100 percent accuracy is the, albeit naive, goal, so I dont care to waste my time on foolish or incorrect notions that will only hold me back. If things arent successes I'd love to know that as well.
Like many of you, I had a gut instinct that told me LOB was real even before I'd heard of the Secret or LOA or any of that. There's a post here regarding mushroom trips that also clued me into it, having had no prior internet experience mentioning this, I was just clued into the idea, that if you give the energy out there it comes back to you from the universe and you should be thankful for it to get more. That was the early stages of experiences with this stuff, and slowly I started to notice more and more, thoughts creating events in life. (thankful or not, shit showed up.) I've only recently found this forum and Murphy, maybe 4-5 months now... after only recently finding out about Goddard... both these are manifestations IMO. I was going through one of that hardest years of my life and basically asked God, show me whats out there and what you are... shortly after, some Goddard stuff popped up in my youtube. No doubt algorithm based from hippying out on some Alan Watts or some shit, but I still feel like it was a bit of a manifestation for leading me down this path, especially to Murphy who I also had no idea about and seems far less covered. In fact, I'd say finding Moonbeam in general was a manifestation. I was frustrated for many years with the LOA crowd and laughed it off as snake oil (despite all the years of knowing it was somehow 'right' in some aspects) because everyone sold you a god damn book. How can you be enlightened and somehow feel the need to charge people if you really want to help them?? I specifically asked for someone who didnt charge, who knew about this... and I found about Murphy and was lead here....saw Moonbeams requirements for training, which was charity and something I have been a huge advocate for of even in my career, trading work for donations, and bam, it felt like such a match I was stuck since. This was exactly what I wanted, someone who was a master, and didnt charge, and took a scientific structured approach with no woo or bullshit.

I've been doing all the tasks, 1-4 for a few months now. I started SH with a specific mission in mind, but after a few months no progress and going backwards even, I dropped it. The stress wasnt worth it. So now I'm onto the money goal. I did get a 500 dollar deposit from tips recently, I do not know to count this or not as I kinda knew it was coming and its always around 500 but I had started my scenes maybe a week or so prior. I've made the choice to move onto the 1000 goal though because then I'll know for sure if I hit that and there will be no confusion. If this is the wrong move, correct me and I'll go back to 500. That being said, its the only real possible thing I've manifested through actual methods of SH so far. The rest of these successes came simply via conscious mind (which is a fucking paaaaaain to keep up, you'll know if you've read about the 'Living as if" posts here... or simply affirming it or almost day dreaming it for a small amount of time. )
-Convention space opening up within a month of the convention date after the show was sold out. I dont know that this happens often, but I had it happen twice in a short period of time to shows I didnt even apply to get into. I wanted to go, just felt it in my gut, the desire, shortly the shows both opened extra spaces. One even made extra room in another hall at the venue. This seems pretty rare to me. I also had all these shows paid for by friends because I was broke at the time. (we're talking thousands of dollars for gas, travel, airbnb and table rental) all within a short time frame. my only process on this was wanting to go and making a silent agreement that if it happened, I would go.
-Extra week in Vegas and a travel buddy. Was scared shitless of flying, wanted to do a convention in Vegas, my brother ended up with an extra room for a week for 20 bucks a night on the strip and cheap flights. Basically he walked me through my phobia of flying and I got to do another show, still using the money mentioned above.
-Cheap ipad pro, got one that retails for around 800-1000 with the pencil, got it from a friend for 300 total.
- As mentioned above, got a 'sugar momma' who sent me a TON of money to help with shit. I imagined this as a joke, and it kinda happened. Could not get her to stop giving me money either, she's an amazing person and we have a great friendship now which is also a manifestation.
-Kinda tying into that aspect, I was tired of chasing women a long time ago, far before I knew about LOA and the Secret and shit like that... I just started affirming that women chase me. I dont know why but it slowly started happening more and more. To the point of being even groped and sexually harassed in the workplace unfortunately... but the thirst was real and something I'd never really experienced. Recently kinda confirmed this was a LOB result as a girl friend told me 'women just dont send nudes and tell you they're in love with you out of the blue like guys do. It just doesnt happen.' I have an entire collection of evidence in text messages just from the last couple years that prove otherwise. Completely unasked for as well. Beautiful women who could have anyone, some even married...pursuing me. And I'm literally doing nothing, no flirting, nothing to trigger it... Its just crazy.
-Also tied into this...if a woman confessed love for me and I didnt feel it, I would pray for her to find someone amazing and be happy. Many times this has happened, although like most of my LOB attempts with other people, the effects seem to not last long. I'm curious as to why this is. But I have also managed to manifest health for a cat recently on its death bed (cancer and old). Imagined her owner telling me she's better than ever, for only a few minutes then I dropped it. About a week later I got the text saying 'she's back to her old self!'
-Made 100 dollars a day for about a week. The 7th day I didnt hit the amount and did revision before bed. The next day I made 200 dollars. Was mind blown but couldnt keep it going after that. I also may have fucked up here because I tried to up the amount to 200 a day after about 5 days...and all this was CM efforts as well so I'm sure shit didnt stick.
-Tied into that a bit I made a sale a day from my shop for about 4 days, this was way early on in discovering Neville and this was doing some SATs before bed... after the 4th day I felt spooked inside and it kinda stopped. ( I used to make maybe one sale a month if I was lucky ) However my career through CM efforts has been insanely good this year and I've been noticed by big names who I never ever got the attention from in 6 years of this profession before. Now they are the ones finding me.
-New computer and equipment. All from friends, didnt spend a dime. easily 3 grand worth of stuff. Some of this I tried to manifest with the Bernston method of image cycling, but literally nothing else on the list even came true.
-bought a game for 100 bucks, realized it was overpriced... refunded it and told myself 'I'd buy it if it was down to 20 bucks.' The next week it dropped 80 dollars on sale.... 100 dollar game to not only 20 bucks but 17.... this may seem insignificant but at the time I'd been doing extra meditations during the day... in Alpha and saying 'everything happens better than I imagined, my problems are solved.' (yes this goes against training but this was mostly me doing it for mental health.) the reason I point this out is a few things have happened since then. The things I try to CM manifest, when they happen, they're a bit better than what I imagine. For example, one of the above 'big names' who noticed my work, also gave me 300 dollars for no reason other than to help with me bills. I also had a few packages show up in the mail 2-3 days early from delivery date and an old gf reach out and be nice out of months of no contact, even cold shoulder contact. Things just seem a tiny bit better than normal.
-Speaking of old relationships, had many 'inside' jokes with this partner that I had imagined, many things happened according to what I wanted and this relationship in general pushed me harder into knowing something was going on with our minds and the universe I could not figure out, but could not deny anymore. (I also manifested happiness and a great partner for her ex because he was hung up on her quite a bit. She told me he found someone who was 'incredibly hot' and they were happy) I manifested many of our social circle to be dating so we could all have double dates and hangouts. This all happened as well. These things were done via CM and just feeling what it would be like, if merely for a few minutes...and far long before I knew of any LOB, Murphy or Goddard stuff... it was just imagining what I wanted without expectations.
- Been getting a lot of free and home cooked meals from family after cooking for myself for years. This was an affirmation with feeling and not in SH as well. We constantly have a freezer stocked now it seems.
-Manifested part time jobs with bonus pay. Yes I know these seasonal jobs are everywhere, however I was approached without seeking this opportunity and the bonus pay was after I missed a few days of work due to bad back. The bonus pay made up my missed time exactly. At this time I was affirming "I always have enough money". Looking back, god damn I'm stupid and should have gone for way more than enough money lol
-speaking of enough money, got COVID money from the government that covered paying my taxes and insurance company sent me a check for 50 bucks and took 10 bucks a month off my bill due to COVID. This was during the time I mentioned above with the job.
Now onto the misses:
-ladder experiment failed
-almost all Bernstom stuff failed
-tried to manifest a red tennis ball at the start of reading nowhere. The other night I tried again just to practice visualizing and senses... the next morning woke up and my brothers dog had a pink tennis ball I've never seen her with before. I wonder often about what these near misses might mean because I've had quite a few recently. Perhaps its somewhere I havent read yet in this forum so I'll keep digging.
-On top of that I wanted to manifest 1.1million followers... a few days later someone came to me and told me about their friend who was a social media marketer... they have 1.1 million followers apparently. ( Did not double check this, I personally dont care I just find the synchronicities fascinating, and wonder if they even mean shit...)
-Wanted to get into a big online convention with only a week till deadline and I never applied or reached out. I did this as just a test because nailing it would have been a fucking moonshot... obviously I missed it but.. a close friend got the exact scenario I imagined for myself. He never applied, the organizer found him online reached out personally and asked him to present his work and paid him. He was absolutely blown away. Kinda crazy shit imo.
-Many misses with manifesting for friends...maybe they're hits but they dont seem to last. Many friends I try to lift out of depression or put them in amazing relationships...seems like it takes off for a day or a week or month then grinds to a halt and they're back to the old self. I believe Neville talked about this as well.
-Many more misses than I probably cant keep track of, but all this tracking has really been only the past year or so. I saw one LOA pornstar video that I did actually find useful where he talked about it being important for your conscious mind to factually see a list of all successful things so it can more easily accept this is how the law works and is working. This seems to make sense with building faith that we do here via the progressions. Correct me if I'm wrong. My theory is that everything works on sort of a probability factor and the more faith we have, the stronger we increase that probability, same with conventional action. After a point of following the master program, probability works almost entirely in our favor and 'we have no more respect for it'. This is what I've seemed to gather so far from everything here and my own experiences. One day I plan to have enough to pay for more serious training however, for the time being my 500 went to someone whose possibly homeless due to COVID, which is no big deal if I can make a grand next. I love the Kiva idea either way and will be sure to contribute if I can really nail down all the teachings here and get the SH stuff to work out for me like the CM stuff has. Any help, tips or criticism is welcome...I am not soft on this shit, I want to learn and master it and have devoted almost all my time to practicing what I can when I can. It probably has become the most important thing in my life at the moment.

Thank you all so far for the teaching and any feedback. Back into the shadows I go until I can really show you the money.
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2020.09.29 23:15 Throwaway472762269 19M could not be lonelier lol

Hi everyone - I am a 19M, very athletic body and have a very good job in the Police.
I find it so hard to actually meet people and online dating is not even close to working for me. I get matches but they never go anywhere and chats die after a day.
I don’t seem to meet very many people while I’m out, and a lot of people my age are at uni so not really realistic for me. I also can’t meet people through work.
Honestly I’m just stuck on what to do in this situation and nothing really seems to be working for me.
Any advice/ suggestions would be very much appreciated
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2020.09.29 22:29 nefelibata-eternal AITA for Keeping the Money for Their Appliance I Sold

My parents had a fairly knew box freezer that died suddenly a couple of weeks ago. It was an expensive model ($1800) and was past warranty by 2 months. The maker refused to replace it and would only replace the part, having the part installed would cost my parents an additional $1000. So I told my parents over and over, getting into actual arguments about it, to post pictures online and sell it as is. They absolutely refused to do it and said it wasn't worth the hassle.
I ended up finding abetter freezer and was able to get it to about half what they originally paid through incredible luck and a lot of negotiating (thank you price match gaurantee and random business selling it for half what it was retailing for.) I had to drive to where they lived and do this because when I told them to they shut were shut down and refused to try again. I held the company to their policy, and after about 45 minutes they relented and honored their policy. My parents paid $45 to have old one hauled away.
I said I would take it and they shrugged and said get it out of there before the haul away date. I took photos and listed the freezer as is. I called the manufacturer and made them honor the warranty on the part which was still valid. I included the part in the online post. Freezer for $600, when the part arrived it would sell for $150. I left no info out and within 12 hours I had numerous offers. Agreed with a guy for what I asked for both. He came that day and picked up the freezer and paid. My parents came out and asked what was going on so I told them what I did. They were all happy and shocked how much I got. They then told me to hand over the money. So I gave them $45 and they thought it was a joke. So I told them that they can cancel the haul away and get their money back and I was matching what that would have cost. They blew up. Telling me it was their freezer and therefore the money was also theirs. I just reminded them of that they refused to do what I suggested and I did it all myself, and they came out +$45 in the end.
I do plan on giving them most of it, but I wanted them to realize that they should listen to my advice sometimes. I am a 28 year old and they take none of my ideas or advice seriously at all, they hardly even listen to them. They take anything I do for them for granted and can't even say thank you (like when I got their new freezer for so cheap). I am fed up with it and want them to learn a lesson. So AITA for keeping some of the money for the non working appliance my parents refused to sell or order the free replacement part for, that I then posted online myself along with the replacement part I got for free from the manufacturer, and selling it within a day along with an additional $150 for the part when it arrives?
Edit: I have been asked this a bunch. No, I do not live with them. I have not been asked to do this. I drive 80 miles every weekend to help them. I never keep any money I make when I sell their stuff. They rather throw it in the dump or pay someone else to. They are retired and living off a friend xed income. I am fixing up their house so they can sell it. I only said I was going to keep the money so they would realize how annoyed I am that all though they expect me to take time out of my life to help them, they can never manage so much as a thank you or even to consider my ideas. They rather shut them down and refuse while expecting the receive any money I make than actually hear me out and help me do it. I am an engineer and in no way need the money, but I would like for them to finally show some gratitude and to respect my ideas. I have 3 siblings who all live a lot closer and none of them have helped at all. They simply come over to eat on Sunday and take things they want.
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2020.09.29 21:51 somarir Music production build

What will you be doing with this PC? Be as specific as possible, and include specific games or programs you will be using.
Music Production, this pc will be used to mix and master home recorded music. Currently using Magix samplitude but planning to upgrade to Cubic
What is your maximum budget before rebates/shipping/taxes?
€1200 for the pc, excluding AMP/DAC
When do you plan on building/buying the PC? Note: beyond a week or two from today means any build you receive will be out of date when you want to buy.
Between this week and next month, ASAP depending if a big upgrade will release soon.
What, exactly, do you need included in the budget? (ToweOS/monitokeyboard/mouse/etc)
Tower + OS, i have a monitor, keyboard and mouse available. I also have a low end DAC and AMP that I will be upgrading soon.
Which country (and state/province) will you be purchasing the parts in? If you're in US, do you have access to a Microcenter location?
Belgium - pcpartpicker has some stores available: Alternate, azerty, etc
If reusing any parts (including monitor(s)/keyboard/mouse/etc), what parts will you be reusing? Brands and models are appreciated.
Will you be overclocking? If yes, are you interested in overclocking right away, or down the line? CPU and/or GPU?
I have never overclocked but don't mind doing it for this build.
Are there any specific features or items you want/need in the build? (ex: SSD, large amount of storage or a RAID setup, CUDA or OpenCL support, etc)
Large amounts of storage (thinking at least 1 tb SSD and 4TB hdd to start, will be upgrading this when necesary)
What type of network connectivity do you need? (Wired and/or WiFi) If WiFi is needed and you would like to find the fastest match for your wireless router, please list any specifics.
Do you have any specific case preferences (Size like ITX/microATX/mid-towefull-tower, styles, colors, window or not, LED lighting, etc), or a particular color theme preference for the components?
Nothing fancy.
Do you need a copy of Windows included in the budget? If you do need one included, do you have a preference?
I need windows included in the budget.
Extra info or particulars:
Is a music card still necessary for this use? I honestly have no clue and I have been reading different info online.
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2020.09.29 21:47 dadada486 Negative Effects of Positive Stereotyping

I'm probably a minority on this one. Asian men are stereotyped as intelligent, successful, reliable husbands and dependable breadwinners. They usually have stable, high-wage earning careers such as finance, banking, IT. However, what if you're an Asian who doesn't fulfill these stereotypes. For example, I don't work in finance or IT. I sometimes fail to even keep my job, just like everyone else in the hardest of times.
When using online dating apps, I very suspiciously attract a certain type of women. For example, I've lost count the number of "doctors" I've matched with. These don't become much if you feel insecure that you could never match the girl's status or wage-earning ability. This is just one of many examples. I'd hate to be cynical or nasty but I'm sure a large number of matches are also of the gold-digging variety as well, whose requirements you couldn't necessarily fulfil even if you wanted to!
And what if you are successful, manage to attract a girl who liked you for your status and success as opposed to looks or personality, but then lost your job? Should you worry about instant abandonment?
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2020.09.29 20:29 sruslywhytho Real Relationships Can't Survive On Texts

If you just want to be entertained, texting is great.
But if you want a real relationship, relying on texts will kill your partners interest.
My (36F) last relationship ended because my ex (37M) only wanted to text. We would have deep conversations in-person. He said I love you first. We talked about the future, marriage, kids, etc. But between dates he relied on texting. Only called if I asked him to.
If I called him he'd not answer and would respond via text because he "felt he should be initating calls as the man". The final straw was him texting to cancel a road trip he said he'd planned for my birthday the night before. I was upset for a number of reasons, but mostly because he was telling me through text which felt really cold given the occasion. He texted that he was sorry and wanted to make it up to me a week later but he never once picked up the phone to call so I moved on.
We met through a mutual friend. But I've been online dating now for a few months and most of the men I match with are the same way... they just text. It'll be a good back and forth convo with chemistry, but the minute I suggest talking or share my number they either ghost or keep texting via phone.
Now, I'll only bring up talking one more time before I just stop responding to them. If you actually want to date it's a waste of time to text for weeks without having at least one quick 5-10 minute phone call. Maybe you'll hate each others voice. Maybe the other person is a catfish.
The first call doesn't have to be perfect, which is also why it should be quick. But it should be enough to be excited about meeting up with them in real life. Without a call you're just someone's penpal until they get bored and that has almost zero potential of becoming a real relationship.
And if you're in a relationship already it's too easy for something you text to be taken the wrong way and create a negative spiral that leaves your partner questioning the relationship. A quick call can go a long a way in showing your partner that you're actually invested in them and not just keeping yourself entertained at their expense.
There's nothing wrong with a text relationship if both parties have agreed they want something causal. But if you say you want a relationship or want to date someone but won't make time to talk on the phone it's probably not gonna work out.
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2020.09.29 19:46 ThrowRA_internet Me (17M) and my gf (17F) have issues with how we see a relationship online

Just to start this off, no, this isn't an internet relationship, we're not e-dating.
If you saw us in real life you'd say we were the perfect match for each other, and I would agree there.
But the issue arises regarding keeping in touch online. I don't use my phone very often at all, so it can take me a bit of time to reply to texts and especially Snapchats/Instagram messages. She's the opposite, she replies to any messages immediately, always texts me when she wakes up and calls me before she goes to sleep. I don't do this stuff because as part of my normal life, I try and avoid using my phone as much as possible because I feel like I'd get addicted (I get addicted to stuff easily in general, bad trait).
So then comes the arguments, she wants me to text her every morning and call her every night before I go to sleep etc.
We also mutually agreed not to talk to each other about our own mental health, that was because she would call me and unload all of it on me. I have quite a few mental health issues myself such as depression, anxiety and body dysmorphia etc. (all diagnosed btw, I'm not one of those kids who self-diagnoses). I also have ADD (ADHD without the hyperactive part). So her unloading all of that onto me felt like a big strain on me, but now she's saying like she feels she's alone, so it makes me want to listen to her problems but I know that doing so will make me feel really shit.
I love her and I don't know what I'd do without her but I also don't know how to deal with this. Any advice?
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2020.09.29 19:23 Notreallymyacct50 4th Installment of “You’re not as bad as you think"

Previous Installment:
A quick recap, I’ve now been in the “LS” for around 8 years. I’ve met some exceptionally fun, sexy people, befriended mostly local couples and an occasional SF. And there were quite a few learning experiences along the way.
I feel it’s important that I paint the proper picture of my wife during this time as well. We now have two children. Both our careers are going great. I’ve made a couple of job changes. She owned her own business for much of this period. During good economic conditions, her business would thrive. Less so during down turns. She works hard, is very protective of her kids, loves her husband and is a lot of fun to be around. All my vanilla friends absolutely adore her. We had a tradition of taking a couple of family vacations during the year and then once a year a couples only trip. Our couples trips took us to tropical locales with beautiful beach and if there was a clothing options beach available, we were there. Like I said she was super cool, fun, sexy but, I wanted more. Oh, by the way, early in our marriage I was the primary “bread winner”. We bought our first home based upon my earnings. Later as her business began to boom, we built our dream home on some acreage just outside the city. During this time, I did well but, was more of an insurance provider. It never affected my ego and never was an issue for us. I just felt you needed the full picture.
Because of the addition of a second child and how ideal my homelife was, I was again questioning my reasoning for engaging in LS activities. As I mentioned in part 3, part of the issue is I wasn’t having as much fun. The concept was still exciting, but the actual act didn’t always live up. My performance or worry about my performance was becoming a mental stumbling block. I’d take a little break but, would find myself back on the sites. It was during this time, I was contact by what appear to be a SF on one of the sites. I was always hesitant to meet SFs because I’d heard horror stories of the elusive unicorn and how kray kray some of them are. Based upon her profile I felt comfortable meeting her. It turned out she was part of a triad or what would now be called a throuple. We met for lunch and hit it off great. I loved hearing about how she became part of another couple’s life. We made a date for the following week to play at her place. I still had a company phone, so it was not a problem for us to freely communicate prior to our playdate. She was great to talk to. The date comes and we play. But, once again my performance wasn’t up to my standards. I felt comfortable talking to her about it. That’s when I learned of the miracle pill. And not the blue one or the yellow one either. Her male triad partner had discovered a pill that was being sold over the counter at GNC for male performance. Now, I’d tried OTC supplements in the past and none of them seemed to help. This one, however, had an unlisted ingredient, tadalafil. The same active ingredient in Cialis. She told me to purchase bottles that were dated before January of that year. I went online to research what she was telling me and sure enough she was right. There was a whole underground network of men commenting about VitaliKor. I called my local GNC stores and found one close to a gym I frequent. I think it had 25 pills per bottle. The next day my new triad friend booked a hotel not far from my office. I popped my first pill and met her at what would have been my gym time. Oh, did I get in a workout! I was as hard as I’ve ever been, and it stayed that way. I had to ask her when she was done and then finish myself. Now I know what Dr. Bruce Banner must feel like when he turns into the Hulk. I’m ready to smash!!
In a flash, I’d gone from doubting if this is fun anymore to discovering a whole new level of fun. My confidence was soring. I hit the gym harder than I’d ever hit it. I watched my diet to the point it became a joke between me and my work colleague and vanilla friends. I change workout routines as well. I got significantly bigger and fitter than I’d ever been, and I was in good shape before! Then things took an even wilder turn.
During this time, I was recruited away by a former colleague to work for a family owned business. The job that would require significant travel throughout my region. It was common for me to be on the road 10+ days a month. With my newfound LS confidence, it meant I could take the show on the road. And did I ever. I made a new connection on one of the LS sites with SF in a city that I would now frequently travel to. She was a schoolteacher by day and a semi famous LS expert by night. She had an extensive and impressive list of validations which, consisted of some of the hottest couples from the area as well as nationally. Soon after connecting I travel to her city. She agreed to meet me in my hotel room even though it was almost an hour away from where she lived (big city). She arrives and in walks this almost 6 ft tall brunette with a classic face and gorgeous body. Jack pot!! We proceed to chit chat but, quickly move into full on play. It was awesome and because of my new pills, I’m on fire. Afterwards we got dressed and I took her to dinner. We return to my room for round two. She ended up staying the night with me. The next morning, she gave me a peck on the cheek and said she’d had one of the funniest evenings yet in the LS. Wow!
We continued our communications, however, it wasn’t like an affair in that you’re professing how much you want to see that person again and how you feel about them. It was more like a teammate talking about LS potential partners. She’d review profiles from the site and ask me what do you think about this chick or that couples, etc. It was exactly what I was looking for. She introduced me to other hot couples and I quickly became a go to SM for her connections. I’d hit the pinnacle of the LS. Well, as much of a pinnacle a non-single SM can hit.
The pool party
My unicorn friend had so many fun connections. Due to my circumstances (you know, being married) I wasn’t able to attend many of her events she hosted along with a semi famous SM friend of hers. Let’s call him G. By the way, when I say they were semi famous I mean both were frequent quest on LS podcast. They travel to events across the country and even internationally. Their party attendees were from all over the country. Prior to meeting her and G, I had no idea that this world even existed.
The next 4th of July she and G planed a pool party at a couple friend’s place in a very wealthy part of their big city. Normally there’d be no way I could attend a party like this. However, this 4th was going to be different. My wife, my youngest child and my mother-in-law plan to travel to a family reunion out of town, three states away. They plan to take some extra time on the road. I had an important meeting for my new company and with limited vacation time it was decided that I’d stay home with my oldest child. My oldest child was a senior in high school and worked as a server at a local restaurant which meant working until late night holidays and weekends. As my wife was leaving town, I mentioned that some buddies of mine and their families were staying out at a local lake for the holiday and that I plan to join them. No big deal. All was fine and that means now I’m in on the pool party!
I got up early the morning of the 4th packed my gear and hit the road for a 3-hour drive to the big city. I made sure to pick a route to the house without tolls. I arrive just before most of the guest started to arrive. The house was a modern architecture and clearly built within the last year or so. The living room was wide with full line high end sliding windows that open to square modern style pool. The pool area was semi-private meaning a neighbor across the alley from the back of the house had one second story window that could see into the pool. Fortunately, the shades were drawn on the window. There was a very nice outdoor entertainment area with a half kitchen and grilling area. The pool also had a nice built in square hot tub area. The upstairs rooms consisted of a larger gym area and several bedrooms including a master. Oddly enough, the owner’s bedroom was downstairs just beyond the kitchen. I later learn the owners design and built the house with their “lifestyle” in mind.
Speaking of the owners, the wife was a late 30’s petite brunette that had some Asian ancestry in her background. She was beautiful and smart, a Doctor by profession. Her husband was cool enough. He didn’t quite seem to match her, however. He was in the pharmaceutical industry. Within the next hour most of the guest had arrived. Initially there were only a handful of people in the pool and all of them in bathing suites. None the less, these were some of the hottest people I’d ever seen and their all in one place. Wow! Soon after the drinks started flowing the clothing started coming off. It wasn’t long that every female in the pool area was topless. My unicorn friend had already told me she’d give me the signal when her core crew were going up to play. I recall I was setting next to the Asian Dr. and clearly, she was getting into me when I got the signal. I politely excused myself and followed my unicorn friend, G and two other couples upstairs. It was like a well lubed machine. They knew exactly what to do and when to do it. In some ways it was routine to them. As soon as we all got into the room everyone removed whatever article of clothing they still had on. Soon the ladies were on their knees moving from guy to guy. The one rule my unicorn friend had is I had to start with her. I didn’t have to finish with her just start. Over the next 45 minutes or so I had the most fun I’d ever had in the LS. Watching these amazing creatures pleasure each other, me pleasuring them and them pleasuring me was the absolute best. Toward the end of this first session the Asian Dr. showed up to watch us finish up. It was beyond HOT!
So, if there’s a pinnacle then there must be a bottom, right? There’s only one way to go from here. Next installment, if you’re interested.
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